I’ve had a lot on my mind, and at this point in my life, it’s hard to know who to turn to. For that matter, it’s always hard to know who to trust. People can do some pretty incredible things, not all of them pleasant. I thought back to this blog, and decided that I would vent here. I don’t think I’ll actually complain about anything, but it feels good to just talk. And if no one listens, that’s okay. I just want to have a way to say this.
The first thing that just went through my mind was based off of something someone told me once. “You claim to not want anyone to feel bad for you, but all you’re doing is looking for pity.” And maybe I am. To be honest, it’s comforting to know that someone feels bad for you. But I don’t think that’s what I’m doing. I think, what I’m really hoping for, is for someone to care. Someone to hear me out and really understand. Someone to tell me what I can do to make the pain go away. But what can you do?
I enjoy helping people. I really do. I like to give advice. But, to be fair, I need help myself. I need someone I can always count on. I realize it’s a tall order, but I also believe it’s a fair one.
I feel like one of those people who just sit there and complain, hoping that someone will listen and feel bad. And I guess in a way I am. But I’m not meaning to. Maybe I’ll keep writing here. Maybe I won’t. I don’t know yet. I guess anyone’s guess is as good as mine.
Forget I even bothered with this. I’m sorry for wasting the time of anyone who thought this blog was even slightly useful. Anyone can tell you what they think you should do. But it’s up to you do it. If you really need help, look to a friend or family member, or even a certified professional. But not me. I can’t help anyone.
Upon request, I have decided to touch base on a matter that I find is extremely important. You guessed it, standing up for yourself. I have seen too many cases where someone gets pushed around or rejected of an opportunity because they were too nervous to speak up. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not perfect. I’m not a public speaker and some confrontations are intimidating. But sometimes, right and wrong outweigh timid and scared. Every now and then, you have to, well, stand up for yourself, take charge of a situation, and let everyone know what’s up. There is a time for your two cents. There is a time for your opinion. While that may not be all the time, occasionally it comes to the point where it’s all that matters. Let me give you an example. Someone I know (to give a name, Bob) was having problems at home. But in this specific instance, it wasn’t his immediate family causing the problem. It was with his parent’s siblings and their kids. The aunt and uncle believed that Bob was basically a failure because he wasn’t doing the same thing that their kids were doing, like having a job or a car or taking the same classes. They even insulted Bob for not having a good enough backpack. So what did Bob do? He stood up for himself. He retaliated. Now, you might think Bob was just overreacting. No, it was quite the opposite. Bob’s family is constantly putting him down and telling him that he won’t amount to anything. Why am I telling you this story? To emphasize the point I’m trying to make. Bob felt like enough was enough. He’d had it with all the insults and arguments. So he spoke up. Long story short, the aunt and uncle didn’t take it very well. But he showed them that they had gone too far. And that’s what I’m trying to say. You don’t have to defend yourself from every single negative comment you receive. If you did that, you would successfully push away anyone close to you in one sweeping motion. But there is a time and a place where action is necessary. Speak up. Let your voice be heard. You are worth something in this world. Prove it. Earn it. Be it. If you expect everything to come to you, you’ll be in for a world of hurt when it really matters. Don’t be afraid of what people think of you. Who are they to say what’s right and wrong? What makes them such an expert on morality? When is it okay for someone to push you around? Trick question, it’s never okay! You have every right to speak up and have your voice heard. No one is above you. In fact, those who believe they’re above anyone else are the people who are the lowest in society. I’m not telling you to be uptight and expect everything your way. But if someone is putting you down, they don’t deserve your time. Make a name for yourself. Don’t be someone that anyone can walk all over. Be someone who can make a difference. That’s how you’ll be happy.
A good friend of mine had a wonderful suggestion. I would love to offer advice to anyone who should need it. However, some questions may be very personal. This is why I have created an email account solely for your questions. I will try to respond to as many people as I can and I will never reveal your identity. If you wish to ask me, well, anything, please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. I look foward to reading and responding to your questions.
Alright, so the question has been raised. “How often are you going to make posts?” And to be honest, I really don’t know. Ideally, I would have unlimited access to posting and never run out of things to say. However, I have to be realistic. I have a life of my own (sort of) that requires me to balance school (I’m a junior in high school), running, homework, friends, a little family, and enough gaming to keep me sane. So realistically speaking, I can make one post a day, maybe two, maybe only one a week. It would really help me out if you guys could supply me with things to talk about. I may not be well known in the community, but I think someone somewhere will like my content. Any ideas will be appreciated (be reasonable, people).
Okay, so this is my very first post, ever. And I mean I’ve never done any blog of any kind. However, what I have done and what I’ve been told I’m very good at is supplying advice. I feel like I give a completely different point of view than most people you talk to. So, basically speaking, this is going to be a place where I can not only rant on my soapbox, but hopefully be able to answer any questions you have and provide any advice you need.